April 15, 2012

Closing cycles

You rarely get to read good topics or excerpts on your Facebook and Twitter timeline. Most of the time, maybe, always it would just be full of random rants, posts and shout outs everything that they're doing. Today, it's this one and sudden urge to share this is really inevitable.

I love Paulo Coelho! I love all his quotable quotes. But yeah! I haven't read any of his books maybe I will some other time. This is one of his humorous article. Enjoy!

**CLOSING CYCLES by Paulo Coelho**

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents' house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won't take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a stand still.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot forever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relieve an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back.

Things pass and the best we can do it is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.

Everything in this visible world is manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also means taking some room from other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detached yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationship that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment. Before a new chapter is began, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.

Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person. Nothing is irreplaceable. A habit is not need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. 

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, keep off the dust. 

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
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Closing cycles. The cycle of life is sometimes difficult to understand. Sometimes you cannot walk away and close a cycle just because it NO longer fits your life...not even when it involves SOMEONE else life. It's not right to walk away. It's not right to LIVE only your life, yeah! you have your own life to take business for but still there's someone who stays with your side...your family, friends or special one..and you continue to put your life on hold for them. 

We cannot begin a new chapter in our life if we don't accept that we need to close a previous cycle in our existence. It is like mourning to give up the past, especially when it made an impact on your life. I believe we all have the right to blast our emotions when something or someone is gone. Shredding some tears can often makes us feel better and helps us put thing in perspective. This our way out, our escape route. God has left this door open for us to step through and start moving forward. Yes! It is hard! Our memories are a part of us. They are locked deep inside us and constitutes what we are today. So the choice is to live in crazy, raw reality or live in a mirage of peaceful life. I like better to live in reality no matter what the cost is so you should wake up from a sweet dream, baby! Everything should be renewed, giving space for the future!!

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